What if it doesn’t work?
Where do you even start?
Is this the right way to do it?
These are only a few of the questions we bury ourselves in when facing the new and unfamiliar.
The idea of personal growth excites a lot of people. At the same time, it stirs an uneasy feeling in the pit of our stomachs that we call fear.
In this article, we will be taking a deeper look into those questions. By the end of it, you’ll know where to start.
Are you with me? (Please say yes)
What if it doesn’t work?
What if it does?
Personal growth is not an exact science. There is no step-by-step manual, no blueprint for success, and definitely no one way of doing it.
If you make mistakes along the way, you’re already doing better than most people. You know why?
Because most people don’t even try, so they never get far enough in their journey to make important mistakes.
Those of you who follow me on social media (@shekwritesblog) might recall the post I made about planning everything to a T. You don’t need to have everything figured out all at once.
It’s true.
Self-doubt is an effective damper for your dreams and goals. It keeps you in place—never daring to try and never daring to grow.
It is a product of our own self-views bolstered by years and years of discouragement from people and, sometimes, even from ourselves.
However, the technique to overcoming it is simple.
I could tell you to just throw your doubts out the window like a hot pie in July. But it’s not that easy.
This is a little mental exercise I used to do whenever I needed to get rid of my self-doubts.
If you find yourself clouded by thoughts of why you can’t do something, just ask yourself what it is that you can do.
For example, “I can’t exercise every day. I’ve got school, chores, plus I have trouble waking up early.”
So, what can you do?
You can exercise every other day, or late in the afternoon when you’ve finished your chores. Plus, you don’t need to get up before the sun. Win-win?
Or you could find it in yourself to get up early and get your body grooving as a way to start the day.
The choice is yours.
Saying you can’t do something is just an opportunity to find out what you can do.
Where do I even start?
Good question.
All the best people ask themselves this question—where do I start? And I’m telling you start where you can.
Writing a blog article was easier than launching a blog website. At least, that’s how it was for me.
Doing something we’ve never done before gets us so worked up in the minor details.
We tend to think about our weaknesses and forget about our strengths.
We obsess about the complicated stuff to further discourage ourselves and forget about the easy stuff that we are capable of doing.
Enough of that.
If you don’t know where to start, just start where you can.
If you don’t know where to start, just start where you can.
I began by writing the article, and because you’re reading this now, you know I eventually got to the hard part and figured it out.
I’m not saying you should sweep the difficult things under the rug and hope you forget about them.
I’m saying stop overcomplicating things. Do what you can. You’re more capable than you think.
Is this the right way to do it?
The thing about personal growth is there’s no one right way of doing it.
You only need to find what works for you.
Then again, even that could change somewhere down the road. What works for you now might not work five years later. And that’s perfectly fine.
The only danger is if you get stuck doing it the “right way” that you forget the most crucial lesson of personal growth—ceaseless discovery and learning.
Growth is a personal journey.
While having a community, like the one we have in She[k] Writes, is the best place to get tips and advice, how you go about your journey is entirely up to you.
But to find out, you need to take the leap and do it.
Are you going to do it? Let’s talk in the comments section!
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